By Tom Deighan
Sometimes we have to take the blinders off to discuss one of the most difficult subjects — the intentional taking of your own life. We are afraid to say he or she took this precious gift away. It is a situation where you feel no hope. Sometimes the cause is a relationship, a loss of a job, financial worries, trying to compete for a woman — I can remember wanting to take my own life on a cruise and it was a combination of things that led me to the 10 foot waves. People coaxed me out of the water. These situations are often temporary, but in our minds, they appear permanent.
It was not the desperate situation that I thought it was. People often wait the longest of time to get help for their problems. Very often, the person making the decision is not thinking of loved ones who are still here and the tremendous emotional pain — the fear, guilt and shame, to name a few — they will feel in knowing their loved one has done this.
There is a saying that a problem shared, is a problem halved. I like this. Be honest in how you feel. Life will be easier and someday you will not be faced with this decision.